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RELATIONSHIP: Use Right Speech – Pst Maxwell Nnawuihe


Use right speech because it creates a conducive atmosphere in relationship. It translates, explains, gives shape to ideas. Wrong use of speech can kill relationship as fast as any other relationship threats.

When you use right speech it becomes difficult for crises or misunderstanding in your relationship to escalate.

“Chew words before you say them” – African proverbs from Igbo. By implication, use right speech.

Another one says “bite your tongue before you speak”- African proverbs from Igbo. That is to say speak with caution.

Tons of relationships broke beyond repair because of wrong speech (s). Miss-use of words and inability to use right speech in relationships are as common as anything these days.

Partners in relationship hardly weigh the weight of their words/speech on the scale of good conscience and mutual respect before they throw it at the other party. The gravity of such inconsiderate and wrongful use of speech has crumbled their relationship with calamitous collapse.

Broken Relationship

Use of right speech seems an outdated practice when two partners becomes too familiar in their relationship. We can attest to the fact that when a couple is too close with each other they always forget mutual respect and courtesy.

It seems familiarity kills that courtesy and respect they once shared when they were starting their relationship newly. They may now say anything without any consideration it would hurt the other party; in as much as his/her point is made that’s fine and OK.

On top of that, some of them could say “even if you hit your head on the wall I careless”…”if you like cry out blood from your eyes it won’t move a hair on my body”. What a brutal and weighty use of speech!

What Wrong Use of Speech Can Cause In Your Relationship


“A man hath joy by the answer of his mouth: and a word spoken in due season, how good is it! (Proverbs 15:23 KJV).

When you use right speech in answering questions it brings joy into your heart. You know that feeling; “oh I said the right thing?” 

A word spoken in due season points to timely use of right speech. How good is it! Awesome and precious!

Use of right speech puts off flames of anger, acrimony, vengeful tendencies,  misunderstanding etc. in relationship. 

It lights and fans the flame of love, trust, peace etc. in relationship. 

Did you know the use of right speech is also a demonstration of humility in relationship? We humble ourselves before our boss/superiors in office/lecturer etc. in demonstration of humility, even when they use wrong speeches at use. Why can’t we do same in our relationships? 

No matter the provocation try as much as you can to use right speech as a demonstration of humility to your partner.

Use right speech because it goes a long way to bear you witness should the other party allow the third party to come into the matter in your relationship.

I read in a story how a friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, “Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school.” On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, “Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker.” She answered,” You should appreciate that you married me. Other wise, he will be the millionaire and not you.”


Repeated use of wrong speech plants wild seed for a terrible relationship. It opens new wounds and keeps old ones fresh in relationship!

“A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver” Proverbs 25:11 (KJV)

In the days of Solomon fruit-baskets were exquisitely beautiful. The contrast of the golden yellow fruit in the beautifully designed silver basket, has a fine and pleasing effect upon the eye.

So use of right speech is as much in its place, as the golden apples in the silver baskets.

USE RIGHT SPEECH in your relationship today and always.

Then suiting sight and beauty will be the outcome.

READ ALSO: RELATIONSHIP: You Can Be Happy Whether Or Not In Relationship


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