Different people have different thing to say to us concerning our relstionship. Listen But don’t do everything you hear.
People speak from their:
- EXPERIENCES etc.
What we hear is not the problem. But what we do with or about what we hear.
Parents could listen to their children say all manner of things in terms of request, suggestions etc. but they’d only choose and do what is best for them, rather than all they heard.
That shows you’re qualified to be a parent. You listen but don’t do everything you hear.
Why you should listen to what others have got to say is because the opinion of other people matters in relationship, in the sense that it also helps us understand the depth or shallowness of their knowledge and understanding in a particular relationship matter.
Their knowledge, thoughts, feelings or experiences can destroy your relationship if you do everything you heard from them. But its important you listen in oder to find out what knowledge, thought, feelings or experiences they’re sharing to you in your relationship.
Listen but don’t do everything you hear. If you don’t listen you miss the opportunity to x-ray and expose, or come to the full understanding of the perceptions of other people towards your relationship.
It’s true there are those who may never say something good or inspiring about your relationship – your partner, his/her education, shape or looks, job, family background, social exposure, financial status etc. Instead of shutting them up before you hear them out just listen but don’t do everything you hear.
If you listen but don’t do everything you hear it stands to prove you have a mind of your own and you can handle matters in your relationship in the best practical peculiar way.
You may be asking, “how can I listen to someone who says demoralising nasty things about my relationship…don’t you know what you hear affects your behaviour and molds you into another person entirely?”
Let me ask you, too, “why have you not allowed other things you’ve heard from others affect your behaviour and mold you into a different person entirely?”
Who ever has become mad simply because he was called a mad man or who ever has become stupid just because she was called a stupid woman?
Have people never suggested horrible, nasty, despicable and crazy things to you before? So why didn’t you do them in your relationship? Because you chose not to do everything you heard. That’s maturity.
People’s advice, perceptions, opinions could change you ONLY when you decide to ACT ON WHAT THEY SAID. Otherwise many bad people would’ve turned good by just LISTENING to good advice from good people.
Listen but don’t do everything you hear, in that way you allow them exhaust what they’ve got to say, then they’d let you be!
They’d say “after all I said…I thought he/she was really listening…I don’t know what else to say anymore…”
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It’s completely impossible to please everybody when it comes to doing everything we heard them say. Everyone is not coming from same direction neither are they going same direction in relationship.
“Very stupid. Why neither of them rides on the donkey?”
Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them.
Later, an old man saw it and commented,
“The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?”
Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.
Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented,
“How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman.”
The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented,
“Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you.”
Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.
It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river.
Listen but don’t everything you hear because if you do everything you hear you lose everything you’ve got!
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